What was the best compliment you’ve received?
I have been told a bunch of times that my presence is calming.
Hear this out,..
While other people appreciate how authentic I am, some have told me “Val you don’t have to be entirely authentic” This blows my mind every time. I would never ever want to torment myself like that. Genuinely, those are the people I run away from because how on earth can you advise a person, on not being entirely their true selves and somehow you manage to sit down with yourself and be okay!!!
I am still trying to find out why authenticity should be such a bother to people.
On Sunday, another sweet soul told me “you are overly kind, and you should change that” I lost it. I promise I broke down. Totally. I’m not daft, I know when to be chill and when to bring out my claws, I just don’t like reacting to things that are bound to disturb my peace. I choose my battles. Smartly. Most times I’m just chill.
In the last few weeks I’ve been told about a bunch of things that I shouldn’t be, and everything I’ve been told not to be, is what I love being.
Again, in the last four weeks alone I’ve been told by more than four people, “when you love, you love extremely and that’s where you go wrong”
In a world where I’ve been told, don’t be too authentic, don’t be too kind, don’t love extremely, I wouldn’t know how to exist I promise. So the smartest thing to do is smile at those remarks and rub them off as soon as they are thrown at me. It’s a messy world out here.
I’d love to protect my cacoon.
That was a whole rant I know, but the point is, the most rewarding compliment I’ve received is about my presence being calming.
Cheers🫶
Shadow to my light. 