The anti tech bonding moment.

I recently crossed paths with the most fascinating soul. For context, I’m one of those “weird” people who believe life was better without today’s overwhelming technology. I often joke that smoke signals and drums were the ultimate communication tools; simple, and far less intrusive. Naturally, most people in my life roll their eyes and think I’m being ridiculous.

But a few days ago, I had a conversation that felt like validation for my quirky perspective. It started with this radiant individual a beautiful soul in every sense of the word. She casually mentioned, “Val, you won’t believe this, but I just got my first mobile phone recently, right before traveling here to Kenya. I only got it because I needed to stay in touch with my family back in the US.”

You can imagine my face; complete disbelief. “Wait, so all this time, how were you keeping in touch with everyone?” I asked.

Her response floored me. “Do you know those old wire phones? The ones with the curly cords? That’s what I’ve always used.”

Right then and there, I knew I wanted to be her best friend.

Before you assume she’s just some out-of-touch person, let me blow your mind. She’s an 80-year-old mathematics professor, brilliant, witty, and brimming with life. Oh, and she adores real, tangible books. Not eBooks, not audiobooks, but actual, paper-smelling, page-turning books.

We spent a brief moment chatting about her life, her values, and her love for simplicity, and I was captivated. The chances of us meeting again are slim, but I’ll never forget her. She reminded me that sometimes, the simplest lives can be the most inspiring.

What makes a good neighbor?

What makes a good neighbor?

I know we all deserve a community around us. The occasional socializing is pretty much profound.

But what makes a good neighbor really? I don’t know. That isn’t within me to define. But I know as a neighbor I should have boundaries.

I’m a big introvert, so the most socializing I do with my neighbors is the usual “hi”.  I mean as long as they are safe and okay that’s just it.

But I also know that if they ever need any form of help that is within my capacity I’d be glad to come through for them.

I love my space, and I wouldn’t appreciate occasional and impromptu visits, I know they wouldn’t appreciate the same.

From personal experience, I don’t think it’s wise to make friends out of neighbors. Neighbors should just be neighbors.

Honestly I don’t know what makes a good neighbor. This was just me blubbering (Sighs weirdly).

FROM HEARTBREAK TO PURPOSE: A journey of self discovery.

We can always sprout if we really intend to.

In her early life, there was a major reason behind her undying passion to study psychology. Hang on that thought for a minute, I’ll chew the bone with you later

The month is March, she pretty much cannot recall the specific date but the year is 1999 of course she cannot forget that. Technology was somewhat setting in and some people were getting to understand that the world was slowly turning into a small global village. Okay what should follow after that particular date she can’t quite recall is a series of over indulgence, anxiety and a bitterness she never thought she would ever have to deal with in her once calm life. A simple girl, from a very simple village. She was so used to everything around her being serene.

She fell in love. That would influence every decision she now made in her life. She was head over heels. And I do not know how well I can describe the intensity. Or probably it was a blessing in disguise. She noticed the butterflies. The intensity. All those emotions were beautiful and pure. That was a secret she was going to carry to her grave though. She had seen enough to never want to experience the animosity that came with settling down. She had seen and experienced it all. She can still hear the noises. The irony is how she’d yearned to at one point fall in love regardless.

Seated legs crossed on her arm chair sipping coffee gazing right outside her window into nothingness trying to recall all those childhood memories she wished to completely erase from her memory. Her mind drifted back to that date in March when Seth opened up to her. It was a beautiful afternoon. She decided to head to town and chill at her favourite spot, she would usually choose to go there when she wanted to clear her mind and feel in touch with nature. Somehow Seth figured she would be there. He wanted to drop the bomb. He was no longer seeing the need to continue the relationship. She can’t quite recall whatever he said after that but of course it had to be the typical “you aren’t the problem, I am the problem…you deserve better” and all that bullshit., the world around her went still. She went numb. She can’t recall how she made it home…but she recalls heading over to a local pub. That marked the beginning of her now messy life.

As the years passed, she learned to navigate the chaos that followed.

The love she once believed was pure and unshakable had left her hollow and uncertain, yet it had also sparked something deep within her.

Her messy life became a constant balancing act between her emotions and her desire for stability. But that heartbreak had also led her down a path of selfdiscovery and healing.

She began to understand why she was drawn to psychology, to untangle the human mind, to find solace in understanding what felt incomprehensible at the time.

And in the midst of it all, she realized that the wounds, the anxiety, and even the bitterness had brought her closer to her purpose. The scars had shaped her passion, her strength, and her resolve. Now, she stands at the crossroads of her past and future, ready to face whatever lies ahead.

^^(an excerpt from a book I’ll never really get to write 😅)^^ cheers.

The weight of uncertainty

Voi town – Taita Taveta

“You have made my day, Larry,” Kortney rejoiced. “Though you’ll have to travel there, familiarize yourself with the place, and see if it’s somewhere you could imagine settling,” he continued.

At this point in her life, Kortney had no business being picky about where she ended up. She was ready to settle anywhere, even with aliens, if that’s what it took to land a job.

She had graduated two years ago with good honors, of course, and like many others, her hopes had been high. But luck? Luck had stayed far away. What had started as a few weeks of job hunting had spiraled into months of rejection. Eventually, hope itself had abandoned her.

Kortney had done a decent job of filling the empty days, but the distractions never lasted long. From being someone’s “wife” in a shortlived relationship, to drowning herself in alcohol, she eventually found herself sinking deeper into depression. Life had not been kind to her.

Now, standing at the crossroads, the prospect of something new, anything new,felt like a lifeline. Maybe this strange opportunity Larry was offering could be the change she needed. She didn’t care if it was far away or unfamiliar. The truth was, she had nothing left to lose.

But then, she looked up, catching her reflection in the nearby window. For the first time in a long time, she saw something other than defeat in her eyes. Maybe this was it, the chance she’d been waiting for.

^^(an excerpt from a book I’ll never really get to write 😅)^^ cheers.

Self approval

Share a lesson you wish you had learned earlier in life.

Not believing in my abilities and always getting caught up in the fear that I had an audience around me. Ready to criticize me.

I know I don’t blame it all on myself , as in the lack of confidence and self worth. To some extent these things are natured.

Though I know I regret the chances I lost because of a whack sense of worth. Either way, I learned my lesson regardless. That’s the beauty and privilege of growing up. Like I said the other day, I am blooming in my own way.