What’s the first impression you want to give people?
Not in a cocky way, but honestly I don’t think about this since I worked on staying calm on the inside (I’ve tried so hard not to say since I healed my nervous system)
I just show up as myself, and whatever perception people get of me doesn’t bother me anymore.
But of course I always carry kindness with me. Always.
Cheers🌸
What is good about having a pet?
I could write a whole book about this.
But all I can say is, pets bring so much warmth and life. My puppy helped me through the trenches of grief when I’d just lost my sister.
What have you been working on?
My self concept
My self esteem
My nervous system
And finally rewiring my mindset
God forbid a girl’s been busy.
What is your favorite hobby or pastime?
It genuinely depends…
I couldn’t possibly point out just one thing.
My favorite pastime shifts with the rhythm of my days.
There are moments when curling up with a good book feels like slipping into another world, where time slows and everything else fades.
And then there are times when writing takes center stage, when the words flow like a quiet river, grounding me in ways nothing else can.
Each hobby holds its own kind of magic for me, meeting me exactly where I am in that moment.
What’s the trait you value most about yourself?
I’ve learnt to value my self awareness so much.
Which topics would you like to be more informed about?
Neuropsychology
What would your life be like without music?
It depends how music leaves my life.
If it was never there from the start, if I grew up to the soundtrack of birds chirping, trees swaying to the wind, children’s laughter in the distance, hens clucking, cows lowing, rivers rolling, and the soft punctuation of raindrops. Then life would still feel full. I’d be accustomed to that gentle orchestra; it would be home.
But if music had been part of me and someone suddenly ripped it away, I’d be miserable. I’d stumble around trying to hum a missing tune, replay old songs in my head until they frayed. And honestly what am I supposed to do with the tiny, cute distorted guitar tattoo on my hand if there’s no music left? That’s the real tragedy.
Do you see yourself as a leader?
Aaah nuuh! Not at all.
How would you describe yourself to someone?
If I had to describe myself to someone…
I’d say I’m someone who feels deeply and listens closely not just to people, but to energy, patterns, silences. I live in a way that’s deeply intuitive. I don’t always need the loudest signal to know what’s going on. I just know.
I’m kind not in the performative, people-pleasing way, but in the way that holds space. In the way that chooses softness even when I’ve tasted sharpness. ( Though to be honest, I am healing my people pleasing tendencies one step at a time)
I think a lot. I feel even more. And I try to be honest with myself through both.
I don’t chase perfection I chase clarity. And when I find it, I hold it like a gem; carefully, gratefully, knowing it could change again.
And maybe most of all I’m someone who notices. The small shifts. The unsaid things. The moments in between.
That’s where I live. That’s who I am.
In a nutshell
I am:
-Deeply grounded
-Introspective
-Kind
-In touch with my emotions
-Curious
-Self aware
And yes I am genuinely awesome.
What strategies do you use to maintain your health and well-being?
Whew! You got me here.
When it comes to my health, I just exist. I’ve been consistent with my 2 second daily workout (Lazy girlies assemble please).
Oooooh I just remembered, I hydrate like my whole existence depends on it, and honestly yes my whole existence depends on it anyway.
I drink herbs🤣 I gaslight myself into believing they work wonders that is; Moringa and Hibiscus tea, and aloe vera once in while.
Then every day I affirm “I am a very healthy woman” 🤣 this one always take me out ( I laugh at my jokes by the way, like damn Val you are hilarious)
I am obsessed with my nervous system though, here’s where all the hard work goes. I’ve done an awesome job healing my nervous system, I gotta give it to myself when it comes to this. How did I heal this? I just allowed myself to see through my bs, made peace with it, accepted myself entirely and started doing the work.
So those are my survival tactics in a nutshell.
Cheers
Shadow to my light. 